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Our experience shows that these issues are occur at the same time because if you constantly feel anxious you don’t have enough self confidence to achieve the life really want to for fear of what might happen if you get it wrong.  
 
To put it another way, if you don’t feel secure about yourself and what you can do, then just leading a normal life very frightening, a life where things are bound to go wrong and it feels like you are lacking in some way.
 
This pattern is often connected with perfectionism; which means having to get things right all of the time, or fear of failure which is the opposite side of the same coin where you don’t take any action in case it doesn’t work out perfectly.
 
 
Panic attacks
 
The unconscious mind often produces the 'fight or flight' response when we’re faced with an irrational fear and this can lead to panic attacks.
 
This is because the mind is trying to protect us or avoid exposure to the feared event.  
 
Panic attacks are frequently seen by GPs who are only able to prescribe beta blockers and similar drugs – which merely treat the symptoms.  
 
Hypnotherapy can really help to achieve relaxation in any panic situation and addresses the unconscious mind’s response to the panic / anxiety.
 
EFT is an extremely powerful tool for dealing with panic, as it effectively deals with the root the causes of the issue. 
 
 
 Success stories
 

Below are a few testimonials from people who have worked with Maxine Henk-Bryce to quickly and easily resolve a range of stress and anxiety issues:


 
"Hi Maxine,
 
Thank you so much for your wonderful training in May. 
 
I can’t believe how much my life has changed since learning the process – I’m just so happy now! I haven’t had a single panic attack since the first day and I’m feeling much more confident to go out and meet people without fear of making mistakes and instead feeling calm on the inside.  
 
Last week I asked my manager for a meeting to discuss my progress in the company – something I never  would have been able to do in the past and the meeting went really well (I used the Lightning Process in advance to prepare myself as you taught us). 
 
I also stood up to my mother in law yesterday which is what prompted me to write this. 
 
She was behaving in her usual controlling, bossy way which always triggered the anxiety but I stayed very calm and relaxed. 
 
I think it confused her – it certainly confused my husband who loves the new me!   It feels so great be in control of my life once and for all and I know it’s just going to get better and better thanks to you and the LP. 
 
THANK YOU!!
 
-  Suzanne Whittaker, Hampshire
 
 
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"Dear Maxine,
 
It’s been nine months since I took the Lightning Process training with you and I want update you with my progress. 
 
I’ve used the Lightning Process consistently and now I can honestly say that I’m free of all the fear and it’s amazing to feel 'normal'.
 
I stayed calm during my exams and even enjoyed writing some of them!  I also got the grades I needed and start Bristol University in September. 
 
I couldn’t have done any of that without the Lightning Process and of course your excellent training.
 
One of the most incredible things for me is that the eczema has disappeared.
 
I know you’ve seen this often before in your work but it was difficult for me to believe I could get rid of it because it had been a part of me for over ten years. 
 
I’ve also met a beautiful lady and have been dating for a month.  Asking her out was a milestone for me as I would never have been able to do before I learned the Lightning Process.  
 
I genuinely want to say a heart felt “Thank you” for all your support and guidance throughout the training."
 
-  Sam Knight, Swansea 
 
 
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"I recently went through a stressful, confidence denting and exhausting break up and having discussed my predicament with close friends decided to engage Maxine as my therapist to help me regain my confidence and re-energise my life.  
 
I had read about the positive affects of EFT and was eager to meet with Maxine to see how EFT could work for me.  
 
Through the use of NLP and EFT I have conquered my exhaustion, re-discovered my zest for life and have regained my confidence.
 
I have also used EFT to deal with my asthma which I have suffered with from childhood.  I now have the tools to deal with any warning signs that appear on the horizon.  
 
Thank you Maxine for your expert guidance."  
 
-  M Bradbury, Cheshire
 
 
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"Thank you so much for helping me to get my confidence back and change my life.
 
I’d been suffering with low self-esteem and depression following a very painful divorce and I was also very overweight due to comfort eating and loneliness.  I’d seen a psychotherapist regularly for the last seven years but didn’t seem to make very much - if any progress.  I’d also taken medication periodically for my depression.   
 
I can honestly say that I’m finally free of all that now.   
 
When you introduced me to the Lightning Process I was very sceptical didn’t really think it would work for me with all my long term problems. 
 
How wrong I was and I’m grateful for your encouragement and expertise, all my old painful memories are now just memories and I feel free to do anything I put my mind to! 
 
I use the Lightning Process when I need to now and can honestly say that I’m enjoying life.  I‘m socialising again and have started a part time job where I‘m making new friends.   
 
Amazingly, I don’t have chocolate cravings anymore and I’ve lost two stones in weight in the last eight months!  I’m so glad I found you Maxine, thank you once again."  
 
-  Sophie H,  Richmond-upon-Thames, Surrey
 
 
  Case history

Please note that we have changed the names of those involved in this case history, in the interests of confidentiality.


Paula had felt bad about herself for as long as she could remember. 
 
When she was in her late fifties she decided that it was now or never to make a change.   
 
Paula remembered being teased at kindergarten because she was from an Eastern European family and looked and dressed differently from other children in her class. 
 
She desperately wanted to fit in and to be accepted by her classmates and felt she had to say ‘yes’ to everything and everyone – even those things that she didn’t want to do in case she was rejected from the group.
 
This pattern plagued her throughout her adult life where other people decided where she went and she what she did, her self-esteem was at an all time low and she couldn’t trust herself to do anything.  
 
During the Lightning Process training Paula learnt how to stop putting herself down all the time and how to start making the best choices for her instead of always doing what she thought was expected of her.
 
Since then she says:
 
“I feel like I’m getting to know a new me and I really like her! I never thought I could change so much and so quickly, especially at my age! 
 
I feel excited about life when I wake up in the morning…in the last 5 moths I’ve been out a lot, making up for lost time and have met some great new people who don’t remember the ‘old’ me.
 
I only wish that I’d found the Lightning Process 30 years ago! 
 
Thank you so much for everything.”
         

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 





 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 



 
 
 


















 





 








 
 
  
 
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